Worth Your Weight

October 10, 2007

Does the “F” in “fugly” stand for fat?

Filed under: fat acceptance — worthyourweight @ 7:21 pm

The Three Graces

“People think fat is disgusting.”

“I think fat is ugly.”

I see that over and over. Those opinions are presented as universal truths. Is it true? More importantly, if it is true, then why?

It hurts my heart that there are people who think this way. I’ve often wondered if there is something intrinsically unaesthetic about fat. Is that why it is viewed as repugnant? Or have we been trained since our earliest years to think so?

If it is some sort of hard-wiring that makes humans despise fat, I would be very discouraged. Naturally, I’m on the other side of the fence. I believe we have been brainwashed to look at fat with a hateful eye. And it takes a lot to retrain the way you look at fat.

My first attempt at viewing my body lovingly and as though it could be beautiful was after reading The Beauty Myth by Naomi Wolf. This was fairly recently. And it worked. I could actually see a kind of beauty in my not-perky-in-the-least breasts and my stomach rolls. Amazing, huh? But it was only a kind of beauty, and the effect didn’t last — probably because I came into contact with media images/ideals…advertising, TV, celebrities, Lalawood.

I’m far more tolerant of others’ fat. Big Fat Blog introduced me to Leonard Nimoy’s Full Body Project photography. My jaw dropped. Fat can be beautiful. Here were women with some of my physical “imperfections” — but beautiful. Sometimes I dare to believe I can be, too. But it’s a struggle.

I think Wolf hit the nail on the head when she argued that beauty can be — and is — many other things than whiteblondethintan. I agree. Beauty is encompassing. Beauty is surprising. Beauty is not perfect. Beauty is not narrow. Beauty is fat.


1 Comment

  1. Hi, I am a first time reader and commentator.
    I think defining perfection and by implication inmperfection when you talk of fat and thin to begin with is tricky.
    I mean perfect features might mean symmetrical or asymmetrical in judging body’s beauty.
    but that also we know are pointless ways of judging beauty…otherwise we won’t find angelina jolie pretty because she has BIGGER lips, right?

    Comment by Nandini — February 5, 2008 @ 3:22 am

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