Not sure I’d get “weight loss” never being the goal from the self-described “weight loss” blog, though. What with the constant talking about how much weight you wanted to lose and how much you had lost. I guess maybe that you were keeping a secret. Good job, though. One never would have guessed when reading about how much you were trying to lose that you weren’t trying to lose weight.

Comments like that are, IMO, supposed to conjure up the immediate image of full-quiver families standing outside clinics holding up jars full of bloody fetuses, lobbing baby dolls full of red corn syrup at the walls, holding up heinous signs and screaming terrible things after the women going in. Which certainly happens, but I think it’s a terrible blight on the pro-lifers to keep condoning such things.

What a FA person who feels the fatosphere should not be pimping diet books and diets has in common with people who hold up bloody picket signs, I can’t say. Nothing, I would think.

It’s in the comments here. (Or at least, I presume that’s what you’re talking about. Maybe it’s happened more than once.)

I’m not going to get into it there, because in my experience abortion rights is the one argument where people get very very polarised very very quickly and no good can come of it. Which is one reason people could be a bit more CAREFUL about the accusations they’re thoughtlessly slinging around. But sure, if you just politely hint that perhaps people should stop talking now, or conduct an discussion among adults exactly the way you’d like them to (because otherwise they wouldn’t know how), or that maybe they sympathise with people who want to deny a woman her reproductive rights (when you clearly don’t believe they do) — well, you’re just politely hinting. What’s the harm in that?

/no patience for that shit at all

I just now saw what you’re talking about.

I…cannot even post about that, because the comparison makes me so angry I can’t form coherent thoughts that aren’t in capslock. And that, for me, is a lot of angry.

*seethe*

And I give you and all the commenters here the credit

Neither did I, and so do I. I hadn’t seen that she’d been mentioned before I mentioned her, but that just…well, where the rest of it didn’t actually *hurt* me (just stunned and mad and shocked) the shit about her hurt. And I don’t ever want to lose her, because she is a TRUE inspiration to me - I’m not very mobile, but just *knowing* that mobility is possible, and that I can do *something*; well, that’s flat-out priceless. To lose someone who is an athlete to a degree I could never have been, but inspires me to want to be all I CAN be, would be tragic. The woman wasn’t even involved, yet gets invoked and then trashed. Absolutely disgusting. If there was anything at all unforgivable, it was that. Though I haven’t seen any pronouncements about that fact going on - like hey, she isn’t even commenting, can we not trash her? Gah.

I’m glad hahafatpants has become a phrase lol. But it’s so true isn’t it? How many times have we seen that? Worthyourweight inspired that one totally. It just sums up a whole genre.

BStu I’m still digesting what you just said about finding it a surprise, but you are probably right. Though I didn’t expect to hear FA be called “extreme” in an interview by someone who is presumably into acceptance and I doubt I’ll get used to that one. Dieting stuff, yeah - I mean one of the first (not the first) sites I went to when I discovered FA was elasticwaistband, but I’d been well inoculated by then by the “radicals” against pro-diet talk (and had abandoned diets myself so long ago) so I just dismissed it and moved on.

It’s still disturbing to me that I could have been drawn in, in the course of *fighting* something like that, to think “Well…maybe I could too.” FFS! (It was like on the fifth time I read through it that that crossed my mind.) What that shit could do to someone on the verge…well I don’t know for sure. I guess I would hope people would keep reading like I did and move past it, because they have, like all of us, a functioning brain. But triggers apparently run deep, and I wouldn’t want to see anyone delayed in the process of self-acceptance and demanding their rights because of something like that.

Well, as BL and I and others have pointed out, the movement is growing beyond its old bounds, and that’s a great thing. There are a lot of things we can move past to get there - including political differences. As people come in all shapes and sizes, fat people come in all kinds of political and religious stripes, and I believe that coexistence is not only possible or preferable, but should be seen as inevitable. Peeples is peeples (as the Muppet Movie taught me.) And we’re fat people. Different people.

WYW you’ve created the hub of the discussion here - hehe, that’s totally awesome.

The only thing I’d disagree with is finding any of that initial discussion a surprise at the site in question. It is and has always been a diet blog. This isn’t the first time its glorified dieting on the fatosphere feed, either. But I’m very glad people are really taking a critical eye to that and questioning it. Especially this time where to post was a full-on broadside against Fat Acceptance. That needs to be questioned, and I don’t think anyone who did so was out of line all though a lot of the people talking you do very much were out of line.